Sunday, September 30, 2012

Sharing housework causes divorce

Here is a new study:
OSLO, Norway, Sept. 28 (UPI) -- A Norwegian study found that modern couples who share housework are more likely to divorce than couples where the woman does most of the chores.

The divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 percent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work, The Daily Telegraph reported Thursday. ...

Norway has a long tradition of gender equality, however, when it comes to housework, women in Norway still do most of it in seven out of 10 couples.
It got reactions like this:
Whether those people are for or against its pronouncements, it seems to fly in the face of what we thought we knew about marriage, gender equality, and the way modern, successful relationships work.
No, this does not fly in the face of what we know. Gender equality may be a great liberal goal, but if a married couple applies it to housework, then it is a good bet that the wife has a bad attitude.

Women are hypergamous by nature. A wife will usually have no respect for a man who treats her as an equal. If a husband does half the housework and child-rearing, then the wife will probably be looking for another man.

After writing this, I see the Heartiste blog has similar comments:
File under: Don’t listen to what women say, watch what they do. ...

The sex’s division of labor evolved for a reason: it’s most compatible with the feminine and masculine sexual polarity. There are some pursuits and some kinds of work that are simply feminine in nature, and woe be the man who willingly takes up the woman’s work in an effort to appease her; he may as well grow a vagina, for that is how she will perceive his sexual attractiveness.
His blog is refreshing because he is not blinded by the silly things that feminists say.

Laura Wood adds:
This supports an observation I have made here many times, and that is, the feminist ideal of men and women doing equal amounts of housework makes neither men nor women happy, despite the stellar exceptions. Dividing the housework evenly involves a level of conscious management of daily life that is annoying and tedious. Things do not flow naturally. The idea that each person should do an equal amount of housework violates the spirit of interdependence that should exist in a home. Also, under the egalitarian model, men are more likely to end up being the inept servants of their wives, who almost always are more attuned to what needs to be done and much more finicky about how it is done. Women don’t like having husbands who are servile no matter how much feminists say they do.

Finally, one of the worst things about this approach is that it implies that housework is unpleasant. Compared to other forms of work, it is quite enjoyable.


Anonymous said...

I would not be attracted to a man who even uttered the words about dividing up the housework evenly.
Anyway, my preference would be to hire a cleaning lady. Barbara

Anonymous said...

My wife will not let me cook or clean at all. And it's not because I am not capable, on the contrary. She cleans and cooks according to her standards, and I learned to just get out of her way.