As one can hardly be surprising, Dear Prudence comes down heavily on the side of advising men to remain in ignorance of their prospective wife's sexual history:It is often claimed that sex abuse causes permanent psychological damage. I doubt it, but it is a common belief. If so, then a man ought to investigate the sexual history of any woman he is interested in marrying.
This is horrifically bad advice. ...
Claiming disease as the reason for sexual disclosure is like claiming hunting as the reason for the 2nd Amendment.
This guy dodged a bullet. And you don't tell a man who dodged a bullet to close his eyes so that the next one is more likely to hit him. Sexual history is important because it is the best predictor of an individual's future sexual behavior. It's not perfect, but it is more reliable than anything else.
I do think that a man is foolish to listen to these female advice-givers.
I had no idea that women travel to Jamaica for sex tourism:
Over the past decade, I have been researching the increase in female sex tourism in underdeveloped and poorer countries. I made contact with Barbara through a social networking site where I had discovered women exchanging details about long-distance romances with men in Jamaica. Not one of the women used the phrase ‘sex tourism’, but most of them discussed how they had sent money to their ‘boyfriends’ to pay an urgent debt or to rent accommodation in time for their next visit.Vox concludes:
It should be readily apparent that if 80-IQ male prostitutes can convince women that their money-for-sex relationship is a romantic one, you should be able to convince her of anything she wants to believe. The key to directing female behavior is simply determining what it is that she wants to believe, then giving her an excuse to believe it.