Dear Annie: This is for "Didn't Need It," who went for counseling after getting out of an abusive marriage and it didn't help: Don't give up so quickly.So I guess that they needed a counselor who never said anything that either of them disagreed with.
My husband and I went to seven different marriage counselors before we found one who didn't take sides. The eighth was well worth the search. It's up to you to find the one best for you, and to follow their advice (or not).
I have the impression that when most women seek counseling, they have no interest in solving problems or getting advice. They want to get their feelings validated. So this one searched 8 counselors in order to find one who could validate the feelings of her and her husband at the same time. That must be a rare talent in a shrink.