We are attracted to qualities in the opposite sex which our own sex lacks. For many women, this means an attraction to male brutality. Such women may claim to want a sensitive fellow who is in touch with his feelings, but this bears no relation to their behavior. What women say about men comes from their cerebral cortex; how they choose men depends upon their evolutionary more primitive limbic system. Even campus feminists choose arrogant jocks to “hook up” with, not male feminists in touch with their emotions. I have heard it suggested that the best reason not to strike a woman today is that you will never be able to get rid of her afterwards.I am not sure what to make of this. If he is right, then most domestic violence is just human nature, and attempts to stop it are foolish.
Suppose millions of women are only happy with a husband or boyfriend who occasionally beats them. Then why would be have laws and policies to interfere with that?
Of course some women will say that "Fifty Shades" is just a fantasy, and they do not deserve to be put in the hospital. I am all in favor of mutually agreeable relationships. But under current law, a man can be prosecuted for domestic violence even if the wife is not injured and never makes a police complaint. See for example the San Francisco Sheriff Ross Mirkarimi story.