A Woman on Men's Rights

Eva Ellsworth writes:

Supporting men’s rights is in the best interests of women. False accusations of rape, abuse and harassment undermine the credibility of real ones. Making divorce and custody settlements more equitable helps women who want families because punitive settlements discourage men from marrying and becoming fathers. However, as some of the articles and forum comments came to resemble classic feminism, my empathy has begun to wane.

I believe men often get raw deals in divorce court and family courts. I also believe our court system has made it too easy for women to file false charges of paternity, rape, abuse and sexual harassment. ...

While over-represented in the media and academia, feminists represent a small minority of women. I’ve never heard any woman in real life speak of "patriarchal oppressors" or of all men as rapists. I do not know any women who have made accusations of rape, abuse or sexual harassment, (To be fair, I have met one man whose ex wife made such accusations). I’ve only met one woman who believes women are paid less for equal work. The married women I know do not speak ill of their husbands.

Men rightly point out that the media portrays men as dolts. ...

Despite "preferential treatment," feminism has probably hurt women more than it helped them. Many women like myself wanted to be housewives and mothers, but did not pursue that option because we were told that was for losers and women are defined by their careers. Once we had careers, our achievements were attributed to affirmative action rather than to career skills and hard work. Many women don’t even bother to date because of the male hostility wrought by feminism. Dates are a Catch-22 anyway: If a woman pays her share, she’s a "feminist;" If she lets the man pay, she’s a "princess." If a relationship does work out, men don’t want to marry because feminism made divorce so unfavorable to men.

If the MRM [Men's Rights Movement] concentrates on legislation and court system reform, society can become more equitable.

She needn't worry. The MRM will never be like feminism.