I had another session with Dr. Inkblot, the court-appointed psychologist, and I am beginning to have serious doubts about him. It seems that my ex-wife has been convincing him that we cannot co-parent.
He said that she told him the story of how she was going to take the kids on a Caribbean cruise, but she canceled it when she found out that I was going to get the kids for an equivalent amount of time.
Somehow he thought that I was at fault for this. He said that the problem was that the trip interfered with the time that I was scheduled to have the kids, and that I wanted a balanced adjustment. He said that maybe if I had only explained to her that it was equitable and reasonable for me to also have an opportunity to take the kids on a trip, then maybe she would have agreed and gone on her trip.
He cited a couple of other examples of supposedly failed co-parenting. When I pointed out that I did exactly what my ex-wife requested in each case, he said, "That is capitulation, not co-parenting."
It is amazing how these family court folks can concoct reasons for blaming fathers. My ex-wife can be crazy and intransigent, and even willing to punish the kids in order to spite me, and somehow it is all my fault for not persuading her to be reasonable. Her lawyer then tells the judge that she must have custody because some supposed expert says that we cannot co-parent. Sigh.