A study called “Egalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,” which appeared in The American Sociological Review last year, surprised many, precisely because it went against the logical assumption that as marriages improve by becoming more equal, the sex in these marriages will improve, too. Instead, it found that when men did certain kinds of chores around the house, couples had less sex. Specifically, if men did all of what the researchers characterized as feminine chores like folding laundry, cooking or vacuuming — the kinds of things many women say they want their husbands to do — then couples had sex 1.5 fewer times per month than those with husbands who did what were considered masculine chores, like taking out the trash or fixing the car. It wasn’t just the frequency that was affected, either — at least for the wives. The more traditional the division of labor, meaning the greater the husband’s share of masculine chores compared with feminine ones, the greater his wife’s reported sexual satisfaction.This is one of many research results showing that what women say they want is quite different from what actually makes them happy. The NY Times article is mocked by Chateau Heartiste, as he explains it much better than the newspaper.
Men can get their relationship advice from women and effeminate shrinks, or from the manosphere. It is remarkable how often the advice is diametrically opposed. The manosphere often has social science studies and field experiments to back up what they say.
In other research, a study claims that psychotherapies for newlyweds does not work any better than watching Hollywood movies.
Update: Here is a list of thinks men say to women, with advice from a woman to never say them, and advice from a man explaining how they can be used in flirting.