Confidential joint counseling

My wife just called, and threw a tantrum on the phone because I had not paid her my April 1 payment yet. I said that I would drop it off tomorrow, and she accused me of violating the court order. I figured that I must be mistaken about the day, and that it was already April 1, so I said that maybe I'd drop it in the mail at the end of the day. She was not happy about it.

I told her that I wanted to meet with her to discuss several issues, such as our tax return and co-parenting counseling. She said that she had no need to discuss tax issues. I asked her if she wanted to file a joint return or a separate return. I explained to her that we are still married, and we have a choice. She insisted that because we were separated, it would be illegal for us to file a joint return. She is a lawyer, and does not take legal advice from me.

Then she asked about making a co-parenting counseling appointment. I told her that we should first meet and discuss some issues, so that we'll have an agenda when we see the counselor. I think that it is very unlikely that we will get any benefit otherwise.

Previously, we went once to a co-parenting counselor at the suggestion of the court. At the beginning, the counselor said that he only does confidential counseling, and required us to sign an agreement promising not to take any counseling issues into court.

But when I was on the witness stand in court last week, my wife's lawyer tried to make an issue out of the counseling by asking me why I didn't make a second appointment. I had to explain to the judge that answering the question would require me to break my written confidentiality promise. After some discussion, the judge agreed that I should not answer.

I still cannot figure out why my wife would so blatant abuse the process by trying to break a confidentiality agreement in court. Even if she had succeeded, it would have only made her look bad, because I had good reasons for doing what I did.