Shunning the adulterous wife

Yesterday's bad advice column:

Dear Annie: A year ago, our son, "Don," discovered that his wife of eight years was cheating on him. It came as a shock to all of us. Don was devastated and angry, and quickly divorced his wife and got full custody of their three young children.

What state is that? Here is California, adultery is not a consideration for child custody.

Don won't let her near the children. He says he doesn't want them to think cheating is OK. ... What do I do? — Confused Grandma

I cannot agree with the sole custody and alienation, but the wife' betrayal should not tolerated. We don't have the whole story, of course.

Dear Annie: I have a question regarding interracial attraction. Some of my friends have said they aren't attracted to men of certain races. For example, my white friend says she simply isn't attracted to black men.

... Are such comments acceptable? — Nebraska

Dear Nebraska: No. At the very least, these comments are offensive because they stereotype. ... People who make such remarks are bigoted, ... If nothing else, they will realize they cannot say such things without repercussions.

All women have ethnic and racial preferences in attraction. The way things are going, we will soon be considered bigots if we express a preference for romance with the opposite sex.

Here is a new documentary film:

FOR ALL THE STUDIES on how divorce impacts kids, no one seems to ask the most important people of all what they think about it — the kids themselves.

Ellen Bruno did.

The longtime San Francisco filmmaker interviewed a handful of children, aged 6 to 12, about their feelings about their parents' divorce for her new documentary, "Split." ...

There were a few common themes they heard from the children: they hate the fighting; they often continue to hope that their parents will get back together — even if one or both are repartnered; and many believe on some level that the divorce was their fault.

Divorce has become so normalized for adults, Bruno says, that "there's a misconception that it's also normalized for the kids. It's a profound change for children, even in the best circumstances. So this is really about getting kids to talk, and getting parents to listen."