Dear Annie: When I was 11 years old, I made an insulting remark to one of my older sister's teenage friends, teasing her about her acne. The next day, my mother loudly confronted me about it, and my grandmother and sister joined in. For the next several months, if I said anything my mother didn't like, she'd angrily remind me of the horrible thing I'd done. For years after, she'd allude to it. This continued until I was close to 30. ...Okay, this is a no-brainer. An insult from a 12yo boy is a trivial matter requiring nothing more than to inform him of better manners.
Really, Annie, when can a 35-year-old man expect forgiveness for something he did when he was 11?
But no, Annie won't let it go either.
Dear New Yorker: ... You have acknowledged your rudeness toward this young woman and, we assume, apologized to her at some point.She wants him to apologize after 24 years?
There appears to be some genetic difference between men and women where women blow trivial matters out of proportion, memorize them, and nag about them for years. There ought to be a DSM-5 disorder for women who do this.
I was astounded when my ex-wife went into family court with an assortment of confusing gripes about trivial incidents that happened years in the past. And the judges and psychologists took her seriously! They could not figure out what she was really complaining about, but maybe they assumed that she had some legitimate beef that she was not expressing well.