The history of this issue is filled with stories of hardship and heartbreak befalling children whose parents are not recognized as — well, as parents. There are the cases of mothers and fathers turned away from a child’s hospital bed because they are not “family.” There are the cases of beloved adults denied visitation rights after a breakup. Many states restrict the ability of a gay parent to adopt or to respond to a child’s medical emergency.This kind of argument makes me mad. No mothers and fathers are ever turned away from a child’s hospital bed because they are not family. They are only turned away because a vindictive ex-spouse gets a restraining order based on a phony abuse accusation.
I have been treated worse than any gay or lesbian parent in the nation. So have thousands of others, if not millions. And yet these leftist editors will only speak up for LGBTQIA activists, as if that promotes some sort of equality principle. It does not. People like Keller are out to destroy parental rights.
But it is fair to say that the research shows no significant disadvantage associated with being raised by lesbian mothers or gay fathers — not in academic performance, not in psychological health, not in social or sexual development, not in violent behavior or substance abuse. And the research leaves little doubt that stable, two-parent households (of whatever flavor) are likely to be better off financially, more attentive to the upbringing of children and more secure than single-parent households.Sure, a couple of gay men adoptive parents probably do better than a slutty heterosexual single mom at child-rearing. But that's not the issue. What the studies overwhelmingly show is that kids do better with their two natural fit parents than all other alternatives. And that is what family courts are systematically denying for millions of parents and kids today.
When a lesbian couple schemes to get legal parental rights, it is often at the expense of some real dad, and to the detriment of some kid who gets deprived of having a dad. There is not a shred of evidence that any child has ever benefited from such an arrangement. I guess that there are a few examples of lesbians rearing test-tube babies successfully, but that does not imply that lesbianism is good social policy, and it ignores the far greater problem of fatherless homes.
As mentioned here, studies indicated that LGBT parents do worse. Keller says that the leading study was rebutted by a sociology professor in this article, saying that the study should not have been published because its definition of lesbian mother included bisexuals, and because three of the six reviewers are on record as opposing same-sex marriage. Furthermore, the journal editor has received a steady stream of angry e-mails, from both colleagues and irate strangers. Apparently there are academic hate groups that will try to end your career if you publish anything unfavorable about LGBTQIA households.
As I've said, I really don't care about the private lives of LGBTQIA folks. I do care that their activists are out to destroy parental rights for the rest of us, and forcing kids to grow up without dads.