The rise of 'co-parenting': How broody, single women are advertising online for men to help them have and raise babies... but they don't want a relationshipI reported on this so-called trend in Feb. 2013.
With their biological clocks ticking, time poor and cash rich 40-something singletons are turning to the internet to find their man.
But these broody women are not looking for a relationship - instead they are looking for someone to father their child. More and more people across the U.S and UK are opting for the so-called 'co-parenting’ relationships – biological parents who have an otherwise platonic relationship, but who both contribute to raising the child. ...
Rachel Hope, 42, is a property developer from Los Angeles. She is attractive, successful…and wants to be pregnant by January 2014. After 18 months of searching for a potential baby father, she has signed up to a website giving her access to thousands of men across the world who, like her, aren’t looking for a relationship, but want a child with someone who’ll take their parenting role seriously. Instead of strings attached, there’s an umbilical cord. ‘I’m in serious talks with three men – one from India, one from Germany and a gay man from the US,’ says Rachel.
Melani, 42, a senior sales consultant from New York, has also joined Modamily.com. ‘Ideally, I’m looking for the whole package – love, man and a child – but I’m also 42 and, although I’m in great shape, my biological clock has almost finished ticking. I need to be as proactive as I can.’ Melani is looking for 50:50 involvement with a co-parent, providing equal emotional and financial commitment to the child. Ideally, she’d like her son or daughter to live with her, with the co-parent nearby. None of her three previous boyfriends wanted children and she’d also dabbled in internet dating. ‘I found online dating more like a “virtual bar” and not a place to meet people with a big interest in family life. People on Modamily have no problem voicing the desire for children.’ ...
Far from being confusing for the child, there can be emotional benefits of co-parenting. ‘The child has two people who love them and who are – hopefully – friends, with no fear of divorce,’ says
Katy Regan. ‘As a co-parent you have support and a child, yet also your freedom, so it can work really well.’
No, this will never catch on. Anonymous sperm donation has been banned in the UK, so the aging narcissist women there can get particularly desperate. But the idea that this somehow avoids the troubles of divorce court is crazy. But for the men, this is like going straight into divorce without ever being married. Maybe the men are gay or something. Very few are actually doing this, and it is just a media curiosity.