Sunday, August 05, 2012

Bad advice for women

Here is Friday's bad advice column:
Dear Annie: Many years ago, I suspected my ex-husband of sexually abusing our daughter, "Mary." There was opportunity and some evidence. I didn't actually see anything. In and out of denial, I didn't know what to do, and so I didn't do anything. But it's tormented me.

Several years ago, Mary told me she believed she was sexually abused as a child, but didn't know exactly who the perpetrator was. Her details were hazy, ...

Since then, she has read a book on sexual abuse and is trying to fill in the blanks. At her request, I also read the book. Now she feels she knows who it was, but the person she holds responsible could not possibly be the right one. I believe she is having false memories. ...

Dear Anonymous: ... But this was a terrible betrayal of your daughter. You were supposed to protect her. Please don't compound your culpability by withholding information ...
This is really sick. Fathers do not sexually abuse their daughters. No wonder this woman is divorced. She was always suspecting her husband of evil deeds because "there was opportunity", even tho she never saw anything. Women like that are never happy.

The daughter almost certainly has false memory syndrome. Much of 20th century psychiatry was based on the Freudian idea that neuroses stem from repressed childhood memories of trauma, such as sexual abuse. These memories fester in the unconscious mind until some shrink recovers them in psychoanalysis.

There is no scientific evidence for any of this. It is obvious from the letter that a messed-up mom and daughter are just looking for someone to blame for their personal problems. By making baseless accusations and dwelling on the past, their problems are about to get a whole lot worse.

The next letter was also bad:
Dear Annie: My 28-year-old sister has been dating a 36-year-old guy for two years. They have frequent breakups because he's commitment phobic. A month ago, he finally proposed, and she said yes.

Two weeks ago, she was invited to go overseas on a special program. Her fiance doesn't want her to be away for six months. I suggested she postpone the wedding and that her fiance could visit while she's there. ...

Dear Brother: Your comments were valid, ...
Apparently marriage commitment is something that the man is supposed to make to the woman, but no one expects any commitment from the woman. In this case, she said that she would marry the guy, but then she wants to go overseas for 6 months. Her fiance could visit. Marriage commitment is a one-way street.

I post this not just for the bad advice, but for examples of some attitudes of American women today.


Zorro said...

You want to know why women give retarded shitty advice?

It's because women never look straight into the eyes of another woman (and men don't do it, either) and say in a clear and steady voice, "That's some of the most fucked up, retarded and stupid crap I have ever heard. Grow a brain or shut the fuck up."

And so the cycle continues. When a man says something that's not even PC, he gets keelhauled over it.

Women have no social standards of behavior. 60 years of feminist horseshit has successfully infantilized American women to the point that they are barely worth listening to. They are a race of 12-year olds.

Anonymous said...

"This is really sick. Fathers do not sexually abuse their daughters"

What's really sick is that you would convince yourself or believe this. It happens, regardless of what you choose to believe.

George said...

Sexual abuse by actual fathers is so rare that it is negligible. 99% of the time it is a false accusation. When you hear of father abuse, it is almost always a step-father, not a father.

Anonymous said...

The Catholics ought to know best about sexual abuse, right ? They're in the "lawsuit settling" business.


Special Report
Catholic League for Religious and Civil Rights

February 2004

“Family friends and acquaintances compose the largest group of perpetrators (28 percent), followed by such relatives as uncles and cousins (18 percent), stepfathers (12 percent), male siblings (10 percent), biological fathers (10 percent), boyfriends of the child’s mother (9 percent), grandfathers and stepgrandfathers (7 percent), and strangers (4 percent).” Horn was struck by the fact that 10 percent were biological fathers and only 4 percent were strangers. “Which means,” he said, “86 percent of the perpetrators were known to the family, but were someone other than the child’s father.”[ii]

George said...

Here is that report. The numbers come from self-reports of low-income women, not the Catholics. None of it is confirmed.

In the letter, neither the mom nor the daughter saw any abuse. And yet they blame the dad. They are sick.

Anonymous said...

Here's what it says also...

By putting the sexual abuse scandal in the Catholic Church in perspective, it is hoped that this report will make for a more fair and educated public response.

Why trust something that the Catholic church puts together to defend itself , huh ?

George said...

I would rather see data that is confirmed in some way, such as by criminal convictions.