Abigail van Buren and Ann LandersOnly Jews could possibly think that they are sending "an innately Jewish ethical sensibility into the world." How crazy is that? There aren't Italians giving innately Italian advice, or Baptists giving innately Baptist advice. Just Jews giving innately Jewish advice.
On Independence Day we celebrate the birthdates of two Fiercely Independent Jewish Women who helped raise just about every baby boomer I know.
Growing up in the ‘50s in a working-class suburb of Columbus, Ohio, as soon as I could read, I was instructed by Abby (Abigail van Buren) and Ann Landers on what to say to the grocer who cheated you, how to handle a friend who’s bad-mouthed you or whether or not to leave your husband (heretical in that pre-Feminine Mystique era). Their mantra: “Are you better off with him or without him?”
Even then I knew the issues in their columns were more real than the ‘news” that packed the rest of the paper. And, as millions of fans around the globe looked on, as often as they held letter-writers’ feet to the fire, they also sent solace and an innately Jewish ethical sensibility into the world.
One memorable response, even a half-century later: When a woman wrote that her boyfriend was perfect except for one small flaw –– he was extraordinarily cheap –– Abby warned her to break up with the guy, and pronto. A man who can not give of material resources, she wrote with a heat that radiated off the page, will not be able to give time or tenderness either. Now aint that the truth.
Their mantra is profoundly anti-marriage and anti-Christian. Typical Christian marriage vows are "for better for worse, ..., till death us do part". Their advice is to decide on a divorce as if no marriage commitment had ever been made. Jews do not even say wedding vows.
Apparently Jewish women decide to marry a man based mainly on how much money he spends on her. Abby is unconcerned with love, integrity, and all the other qualities that other women look for in a man. Just giving material resources.
All of this would not be my concern, except that a Jewish judge appointed a Jewish psychologist to apply that innately Jewish advice to take my kids away. They did not apply the law, or the facts, or psychology, or any social science about what is good for kids. They just applied their own bigoted anti-Christian hatred.