Dear Annie: My husband, "George," seems to feel the need to constantly grope me. ... During the time we dated and for the first three years of our marriage, George and I had normal conversations about sports, politics, movies and books, but now it's only sex, sex and more sex. ...I skipped some parts, but the letter clearly says that the wife has the medical problem, not the husband. To these female advice givers, being a man is a pathology.
For medical reasons, my sex drive isn't what it used to be. I try to accommodate George, and we are intimate even when I'm not feeling well. George is 52 and in fairly good health. He isn't on any medications, nor has he had any injuries that would account for this. I'm tired of the incessant groping and sex talk. How do I deal with this before I scream? — Married to an Octopus
Dear Married: Get your husband to a doctor for a complete checkup, including a neurological exam. George's fixation on sex is making it difficult for his brain to focus on anything else.
This advice column succeeded Ask Ann Landers. Landers was Jewish and divorced. Her daughter also writes a silly advice column, and has been married four times. Landers' twin sister was Dear Abby. I don't know why Jews are so eager to give such bad advice to anyone who will listen.
Update: The NY Times reports that female arousal products have become a big business:
In the absence of a government-approved female counterpart to men’s potency drugs like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra, many women are turning to over-the-counter products, including lubricants, arousal gels, massage oils, nutritional and herbal supplements, and vibrators. Drugstore chains are now selling these products right next to the bandages and heating pads. ...Of course the shrinks are happy to declare half of all women disordered if it sells products.
Female sexual dysfunction remains a controversial topic, even as it becomes an official diagnosis (to be called female sexual interest/arousal disorder) in the DSM-V, the new edition of the psychiatric diagnostic manual, due in 2013. An often cited statistic, from a report in The Journal of the American Medical Association in 1999, is that 43 percent of women ages 18 to 59 experience some form of sexual dysfunction, including lack of desire, arousal or orgasm; or pain during intercourse.