I have walked out of court many times in tears because the best interest of the children are not at the heart of the decision making process.Has anything else ever happened? In 6 years of watching the family court, I have never seen it put the best interest of the children at the heart of the decision making process. Not even once. I doubt that it ever happens.
I was also surprised by the comment in the article "That's when it really hits home, when you realize your daughter really isn't yours anymore." Children are not property they are people, individuals who need to be treated with respect and love, child support is meant to provide them a life that is not at poverty level, a life similar to what they had prior to the divorce.Children are not property, but nearly ever civilization has allowed parents to make the child-rearing decisions. I don't think that any good has ever come from judges making such decisions.
You description of child support is not correct. If it were, then child support would be ordered based on what is necessary to be above the poverty level. But the California formula does not use the poverty level at level. Even wealthy parents receive child support. And there is no obligation to spend the money on the kids.