I propose the following plan to put a definitive end to most of these court hearings:Wow, this is really extreme. Item 6 is particularly ridiculous.
1. I choose the visitation supervisor out of the recommended Court list. If that visitation supervisor refuses to perform visitation monitoring due to George's behavior and "sabotaging" efforts, then George forfeits his right to have visitation.
2. I choose the time, date, location and frequency of the visits. I have no problem with George seeing Mary and Jenny frequently (several times a week), but it must be under supervision and it must not continue to interrupt their lives. If George doesn't like my choices, then he can choose not to participate.
3. George pays for the chosen supervisor at the chosen time and date 2 weeks in advance, unless the visit is arranged within the 2 week span of time. If he does not pay, then he foregoes the visit. If the visit is arranged within the 2 week span then it is up to the supervisor to choose the deadline for payment. If George does not pay by the deadline, then he foregoes the visit.
4. The visitation supervisor is paid to write up a summary of the visit, as per the custom for supervisors. George pays in advance for this service, with the same rules applying for the payment for the visit date.
5. The visitation supervisor is permitted to read Dr. Perlmutter's report and whatever information I choose to give to the visitation supervisor. There is to be no exchange of documents/web site information between the visitation supervisor and George. If George wants to give the visitation supervisor information, then he must give it to me first, and I will decide if it is to be seen by the visitation supervisor. If George does not follow this rule, then George foregoes his right to have this supervisor perform visitation monitoring. This rule is intended to keep George from tainting the process.
6. The visitation supervisor is to strictly perform supervision and not to give George suggestions about how to parent. This rule is to avoid George's pattern of getting a professional from identifying with him and becoming invested in his "progress", while George only pretends to "try". Ultimately the write-ups become distorted if the visitation supervisor has too much of a vested interest in the progress of the one he/she is supervising.
7. If George wants to go to family therapy with Mary and Jenny, I will pick the family therapist. This can occur between 1 and 4 times a month. George will pay the family therapist for their time, in advance, just as with the visitation supervisor of 3 above. If George does not like my choice of a family therapist, then he foregoes the opportunity to participate in family therapy.
Therapeutic Visitation Supervision
8. If George wants to have therapeutic supervised visitation, I choose the therapeutic visitation supervisor, the time/date/location/frequency of the visits. George pays for the visits and the write-up. The same rules apply for payment of therapeutic visitation supervisors as for visitation supervisors.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Ex-wife demands a new plan
My ex-wife has submitted this to the court: