I have evaluated numerous children whose only problems are that they live with loving and dedicated parents who are wimps. There is no psychological test yet to diagnose this disorder, but here is how you can assess yourself and perhaps avoid a visit to a therapist’s office.You can find more of his opinions here. In one essay, he says, Children should know that evil exists.
1. Are you more concerned about your children’s feelings than their behaviors?
2. Do you praise your children excessively?
3. Do you give in on your discipline?
4. Do you feel guilty after disciplining your child?
5. Are you inconsistent in your application of discipline?
6. Do you talk endlessly to convince your children that your discipline is fair?
7. Do you typically place your children’s needs above those of you and your spouse?
His opinion is refreshing because most child psychologists teach parents to be wimpy parents.
I mentioned below that Communist countries use forced psychiatry to force dissidents to conform.
I once had gay family court psychologist Bret K. Johnson recommend that I be ordered to do this:
10. Counseling/ Related:There were no actual health or safety issues mentioned in his report, but just gripes from my ex-wife about my parenting style.
A. Father shall participate in a minimum of six months of thrice monthly individual counseling with a licensed therapist familiar with issues of healthy child care and safety needs to deal with the issues noted herein,, e.g., safety, supervision, insight into his own needs versus the children's, and other issues and shall continue as needed thereafter or until released. Possible therapists in Santa Cruz County may include: Jay Goodman, Ph.D., Jay Muccilli, Ph.D., CJ Neusdater, LMFT, Sheilah Seigel, Ph.D., Judy Zappacosta, LCSW.
B. Mother shall seek counseling as needed.
C. The parents shall sign appropriate release authorizations and provide documentation for written communication between the counselor(s) and Court regarding level of participation, number of sessions completed, issues addressed and progress.
D. The counselors shall be provided with a copy of this and other relevant Court Orders and reports.
I was particularly struck by the phrase "insight into his own needs versus the children's" because there was nothing about this in either his report or the court papers. It seemed to be just a boilerplate psychologist phrase for demoralizing parents. No matter what the dad says and does, he can be accused of now always putting his own needs (and those of other loved ones) ahead of the children's. He can also be accused of lacking insight and empathy. No dad would dare stand up to a court psychologist who holds the power to order forced counseling to continue "until released."
I do think that psychologists are evil when they use the authority of the court to order psychological punishments that are not grounded in any generally accepted psychological wisdom. That includes Johnson, Perlmutter, and the Chinese Communist shrinks.