Saturday, March 21, 2009

The ruling against me

The principal findings of the appellate court against me were:
To change a final child custody determination, the law requires that the judge find some significant change of circumstances. However, it is not necessary to find any circumstance that has actually changed.

To make a finding of abuse, the judge does not have to actually use the definitions of abuse that are in the law.

The judge must have substantial evidence for his conclusions, but that evidence can be unidentified morcels of hearsay that are not even on the record.

If a judge quotes extensively from a report in support of his final decision, it does not necessarily mean that he is relying on the report.

If a CPS witness testifies against a dad in open court, then the dad can be refused a rebuttal witness on the grounds that the rebuttal witness might not have had a right to access juvenile court case records. There was no related case in juvenile court.

If the mom remarries a man with a $3,600 per month mortgage, then then dad can be required to pay the mom an extra $1,000 per month over regular child support in order to compensate her for the possibility that some of her income might be used to help pay that mortgage.
I've been meaning to post some messages explaining what is wrong with this ruling, but I'm not sure where to start. It is outrageous from beginning to end.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Starrt from the fact that you are a man. Thta is enough for not considering you

Anonymous said...

Then consider the posibility that you don't know what you are doing and don't understand the law, the facts, and/or the process. You don't want to envoke the process to get a resolution, you want to be above it all and cling to your victimhood. That way you don't have the responsibility of children, you can just write a check and complian about how the sytem has wronged you through no fault of your own. I see a hundred guys like you every year.

Anonymous said...

Then you should quit whatever is you do that allows you to see hundreds of guys who have their children taken from them by a wife who brought sin in to their home and shame to her family by seeking sex outside her marriage. But I guess none of those things matter anymore.

Anonymous said...

Your right. Those things may drive your anger but they are not relevant in a no fault state. Get over it, learn how to be a real father, then educate the court and your children that you have done so.
Consider that you may be taking large portions of your anger out on your children, since they likely do not share your view of your ex and are doubtless profoundly disinterested in how much THE SYSTEM has wronged you.

Anonymous said...

Women should be free to leave unhappy marriages without fear that they will be left destitute. Just because the marriage doesn't work out and his wife found true love with another man doesn't mean Angry Dad is off the hook for alimony and child support.

Furthermore, I feel that in most cases alimony and child support should continue even if the ex wife remarries.

Women don't just leave on a whim. There is always a reason and the reason almost always has something to do with HOW THE HUSBAND HAS EITHER FAILED OR ABUSED HIS WIFE.

Anonymous said...

Can't you just ban this woman George? Same ole same ole. Yes yes, women should be allowed to destroy their families and leave thier children fatherless because they got a little horny and bored. Oh brother. What happened to our women?

Anonymous said...

All I'm saying is that men shouldn't have the ability to hold a woman financial hostage in a marriage if she's unhappy. It works both ways. Men should have the right to leave also.

Anonymous said...

Both parties are free to leave a marriage that no longer works. The Court undertakes to delver some financial equity to each party to meet the responsibilities of the parties and children. Much of the Family code is driven by the desire that parties and children do not wind up on welfare. I don't want to pay for your kids when you can.
Courts can't and don't attempt to address the happiness of the parties or address their disappointments in each other.

Anonymous said...

And to think the Feminist movement told us that "she can have it all". I guess that meant as long as the court and state and ex keep picking up the tab. What happened to equality? Can't she work? Can't she earn? Come on ladies, it's a scam and you know it. Guys really need to wake up to it. Well, looking at the plummeting marriage rates once could say they are. Bob Dylan once said, "people don't need facts, they just need a cause". The people who write in negatively know you are getting hosed, but don't want that gravy train to stop, so they shame.

Anonymous said...

Also, abused Women don't divorce. After about 15-20 years they flee (maybe). It's sad to. The less than 2% of all men who are abusive can continue with that behavior for a lifetime. The nice guy gets the blame for the thug. Who gets the Cops called on them? Answer, the nice guy. She's not afraid of him. The violent guy she wouldn't dare. Sexual harrasement doesn't get filed on the bad boy either. You ladies have a system that only punishes the guy who wants to do right. George did everything right. He thought taking care of her, putting her thru school, all these things would make her happy. It doesn't work like that with Women. They only live in misery and pettiness. As someone once said, Men look into windows, Women look into mirrors. This is why the MRA movement is getting so big now and will continue to.