Today, I found out the allegations, as she had to put them in writing. She checked boxes for "cruel or sadistic infliction of pain" and "forced sex". She then tries to substantiate it by describing ordinary bedroom sex:
Almost always, sex would be in the traditional missionary position. He's about 200 pounds, and wouldn't hold himself up and off of me. I had a very difficult time breathing. I eventually learned to pretty much meditate while having sex, so that I could breathe shallowly. I had repeatedly, over a span of years, asked him to hold himself up, but he wouldn't.Most lawyers would save their clients from such embarrassment, but my wife's lawyer appears to be a man-hating lesbian who thinks that missionary-position sex is cruel.
When I did ask him to hold himself up, he would extend the time that we had sex. What was normally a 20 minute exercise would turn into a 45 minute to an hour exercise. This in itself wouldn't be so bad, if he hadn't of spent the entire time roughly thrusting, to the point of causing me pain about 25 minutes into this adventure.
She is not claiming rape, but she is saying that I pressured her to have sex, and that she only consented "because I wanted our marriage to work, and I wanted our children to live a good life."
California is supposed to have no-fault divorce, so I don't see why anyone would pay attention to these allegations.