Yesterday, the kids told me my wife's boyfriend's last name. They said that Mama had been trying to keep it a secret, but they figured it out somehow. Also, they call him B-R-U-C-E (spelling out the letters). I guess that my wife tries to avoid saying even his first name.
They also said that my wife's divorce lawyer is a friend of Bruce's, and that my wife hired that lawyer on Bruce's recommendation.
The kids have also been coached to say that Bruce was just a good friend before the divorce. I told them that Mama is finalizing the divorce in court next month, and that she is likely to be more open about her relationship with Bruce after that. The kids seemed to know more than they were supposed to know anyway.