I heard from a reader who grew up in China. So I asked her how much worse off I would be in a one-party police state like China.
She said that in China, parents have discretion to raise their kids as they see fit. The govt would only intervene if there were objective evidence of significant abuse. Even then, the parents would have various due process rights. The accusations against me would never even be considered because the Chinese would consider them too trivial.
On the other hand, she said that in China I would not be able to maintain a blog that is so openly critical of the govt authorities.