I am 31 years old, I have an 18 year old brother who is supposed to be off to college in less than a week. We have the same parents, but they have been divorced since my brother was 2 years old. Our father, decided to "abandon" us somewhere in these last few years. ... He has applied for financial aid and received many scholarships and grants, but there is still a balance due that needs to be paid in order for him to attend school. He has tried contacting my father to ask him to please help him out, whether it be to co-sign a loan for the remainder of the balance, or help him pay out the balance monthly....my father refuses to help out. Refuses! What kind of parent would deny their child a higher education??? ... My point, there should be a way to get my father to pay for his son's education. ...I guess that the college has decided that the man should pay tens of 1000s of dollars, even tho he was never consulted.
The brother is an adult now. I think that it is unreasonable to track down some man who never had an opportunity to act as a real father to the boy, and then expect him to pay some huge fee that some college wants him to pay.
This letter is typical of those who have devalued fathers to be just a source of money. It would probably be better for the boy if the father refuses to pay.