Friday, October 07, 2005

School mix-up

I went to pick up my kids at school, and my ex-wife was there, with the kids, and sporting her new engagement ring. She said, "What are you doing here?"

I explained that it was the first weekend of the month, and therefore my turn with the kids. She didn't believe it. I said, "Have I ever lied to you before?"

She replied, "everything that comes out of your mouth is a lie." Sigh.

I tried to tell her that if we can just agree to our own schedule before court on Tuesday, then we don't have to be subject to some arbitrary court-dictated schedule. It was hopeless. She didn't even respond.

So she took the kids, went home, reread the court order, and eventually delivered the kids back to me.

On my way home, I got the mail, and there was a brief from my ex-wife demanding sole legal custody. She is as intransigient as ever. More on this later.

Later I found our 8-year-old daughter by herself saying, "Mama is a liar, Mama is a liar." I sat down and explained to her that Mama just made an honest mistake about the schedule, and that she was not a liar. She said, "No, no, I said Mama was a LAWYER!" Funny. Okay, my mistake. Someday I'll figure out the difference, and explain it to the kids.

This case is getting stranger. It was my ex-wife's lawyer who requested a delay, with briefs on the 6th and a hearing on the 11th, to accommodate her (the lawyer's) vacation. Instead, I get a brief on the 7th, and my ex-wife fires her lawyer. The brief is pretty crazy. It appears that Miss Jennifer Gray refused to sign the brief, so my ex-wife is taking the matter into her own hands. My ex-wife doesn't want to take any chances that someone might do something reasonable.

1 comment:

Masculiste said...

There's a saying in the legal profession that goes like this...

"A lawyer who represents himself has a fool for a client."

What she's asking for is utterly ridiculous and it's fairly clear that even her own lawyer, at some point, has been trying to impress this upon her.

And as a lawyer herself, since it is also fairly clear that she couldn't get her lawyer to continue to go along AND can't find another lawyer to represent her absurd demands to sole legal custody, she has no choice but to go at it on her own.

She has been slinging shit to see what she can get to stick, and so far, she can't get a damn thing to...

Remember that in a custody hearing, what goes a long way, is the parent MOST LIKELY to facilitate and encourage frequent and on-going access. Or I should say...the parent MOST WILLING to co-parent. In your ex's most recent brief, she has said in no uncertain terms, that she flatly refuses to co-parent.

And your daughter is not that far off from the truth considering the implications your ex has made about you.

Remember...your wife created the chaos, so don't be shy and make that point at your next meeting.

All you have to do is keep it simple!