Wednesday, October 26, 2005

Answering public accusations

I just got this from my ex-wife:
To AngryDad,

I am writing you with the hope that after you read this letter, you will dismantle your blog site entitled The way in which you have gone about the journaling of your version of this divorce process has become an impediment to successful co-parenting efforts.

It has come to my attention that [our kids] have access to your angry dad blog site, have read it, and have witnessed you writing on it. They know that you write bad things about me on this blog. This is not beneficial for the children's well being or our attempts at co parenting.

It would be in the best interests of our children and co-parenting to dismantle your blog site.

Sincerely, [AngryMom]
No, I think that this blog has aided our co-parenting. My ex-wife does not listen to me, but she reads this blog. At least she learns my point of view, if nothing else.

This blog would be very different if I really used it to write bad things about my ex-wife. I do not believe in badmouthing my ex-wife, either to my kids or anyone else. But I do believe in defending myself against accusations. When those accusations are made publicly, then I will publicly defend myself.

Unfortunately, my ex-wife continues to say bad things about me in court, and my kids continue to suffer the consequences. If she stops attacking me in court, then it won't be necessary to defend myself any longer.

If my ex-wife really cared about the best interests of the children, then she would stop her current court action. She is desperately afraid that our kids will someday learn the details of what she has done.


Masculiste said...

Talk about an inversion tactic. She tries to crucify you in court, is completely unreasonable, unfair, unethical, and has gone so far as to imply that you are not safe in your care of your kids, which by asserting that which is false, clearly constitutes fraud-on-the-court.

She basically tries to beat you down and bully you through protracted litigation...but hey, a blog that chronicles her actions constitutes making co-parenting impossible. If that ain't the pot calling the tupperware black.

Dear Mrs. Angry Mom, to this point, if anything that was chronicled here was a fabrication, there is no doubt that you would have brought it to the court by now. As a lawyer yourself, you know perfectly well that it's only defamation if it's not true.

Secondly, according to all the documentation, the only party who has consistantly refused to co-parent in a healthy and wholesome manner is you.

At no point has your galactically patient and long-suffering estranged husband ever suggested otherwise. YOU, however, have consistantly demanded sole legal custody. Where I come from, THAT'S a clear-cut refusal to co-parent. So the only impediment to co-parenting here is you.

Finally, Angry Dad is chronicling HIS life experience for other dads who are experiencing this same horrendous situation in their own lives. HIS life. What harm you cause his life or the lives of his children (as well as yours) by engaging in the dispicable acts you have, offers you no claim of privacy beyond whatever parameters the court has already imposed in general.

In other words, as much as you would like to, you don't get to sweep the carnage you create, under the rug. If you don't want your children to read about the carnage you are creating, it's very simple...stop creating carnage.

George said...

Thanks. I don't really get this co-parent argument. I think that I'll solicit some other views just to get a more objective opinion.