tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8081447.post5612322911423265875..comments2024-02-19T09:57:54.701-08:00Comments on The Angry Dad: Take the Red PillGeorgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16032672334544228703noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8081447.post-83701509227876086462013-02-03T18:21:56.412-08:002013-02-03T18:21:56.412-08:00Good points.Good points.Georgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16032672334544228703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8081447.post-82904158011928472742013-02-03T16:51:30.064-08:002013-02-03T16:51:30.064-08:00I essentially agree that a significant portion of ...I essentially agree that a significant portion of the professional help out there is not going to salvage (or save?) a bad marriage. I have always viewed such services with natural skepticism simply because two mature, rational adults should be able to come to some type of accommodation on their own. I mean honestly - if a well-meaning councilor is the only thing that can save a marriage or any other relationship - how much does it say about either person if they are putting their own future into the hands of a stranger? <br /><br />Look at it another way: Assigning additional blame for rising divorce rates on the backs of the relationship guidance industry is like blaming the rise in obesity in America on the exercise industry. <br /><br />The two are alike in that their expansion into the marketplace has come about because two problems - failing marriages and obesity rates - are both on the rise. They are also both alike in that despite more and more Americans seeing counselors and participating at gyms on a regular basis - neither service has managed to abate the actual problem at hand. The problem with gyms is that the cause of the weight problems is the food people are taking in and the quantity. Failing to address this first has allowed waistlines to bulge no matter how hard the person works out.<br /><br />Marriages are failing because gender rolls have been turned upside down. Marriage lasted for thousands of years across widespread cultures because they were centered around the mutual roles of the authoritative, decision-making, bread-winning, protective presence of a father coupled alongside the nurturing, protective, supportive and gentle guidance of a mother. Men today do not see it as their primary duty to take a leading role or often see nothing wrong with being near-do-wells with regards to being a provider. Feminism has saw to it that an overwhelmingly liberal school system - where teachers are far more often to be women - have caused what used to be a statistically higher likelihood of boys participating and being called upon in class to one where it is girls - not boys - who are likely to graduate and seek a career, as well as seek higher degrees and PHDs.<br /><br />Marriages are failing because the foundation and purpose of marriage - which used to be raising families - has been replaced with a romantic notion of marriage that simply does not exist. You ultimately end up having women settling for men who are not marriage material and men who are selling themselves and the roles they have to play short in an attempt to appeal to women based on standards that are not rooted in reality.Scope Creephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13030424352869840248noreply@blogger.com